How to Spot — and Handle — a Sociopath «3/2/1. Watch What Dreams May Come Mediafire. How to Spot — and Handle — a Sociopath.

Ted Bundy. Jeffrey Dahlmer. Danny Rolling. Jim Jones. David Koresh. Charles Manson.

Hannibal Lecter. Aileen Wuornos. Norman Bates. Names you probably think of  — real and fiction — when you hear the word “sociopath”. But did you know that we ­cross paths with sociopaths on a regular basis  — and often don’t even know it? All serial killers are sociopaths. But not all sociopaths are serial killers.

In fact, many researchers believe that 1 in 2. Americans fit the criteria for sociopathy. One in 2. 5! Think of all the people you have met in your life. Average one in 2.

That’s 4% of the population, or about 1. Americans. Hard to believe, right? Well, maybe not. Sociopaths wreak havoc in people’s lives in quiet ways, too.

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In fact, that’s how most sociopaths work. Have you ever known someone who left you feeling confused, devastated, or chilled – maybe all at once? Maybe it was a romantic partner you think back on and describe as evil. Maybe it was a boss whom you describe as psycho. Or that domineering neighbor. The vast majority of sociopaths don’t kill. But they make people miserable.

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And they tend to get away with an awful lot. Wouldn’t it be nice to recognize a sociopath before they do their damage? And, once recognized, wouldn’t it be great to know how to deal with one? Sociopathy is surprisingly difficult to see. In her book The Sociopath Next Door, clinical psychologist and former Harvard faculty member Martha Stout, Ph. D, gives us a great roadmap for conceptualizing, understanding, and avoiding sociopaths.

First, shift your Hollywood version of the sociopath or psychopath (the terms are interchangeable) – a cold- blooded serial killer – to the actual definition of a sociopath. Sociopathic characteristics include powerful charisma, charm, spontaneity, chronic manipulation, intensity, and risk taking. Sociopaths are good at making you doubt yourself. Making you do things you wouldn’t normally do. Making you do things for them.

Making you feel crazy. Sociopaths like to win, they like to dominate. But the defining characteristic of a sociopath is a person who has no conscience. What does this mean? No empathy. An inability – not a choice, but an inability – to care or even think about the feelings of anyone else.

An ability to move through life with complete disregard for their actions: no remorse, no capacity for shame, and no guilt. Sociopaths can, because they are unhindered by guilt, manipulate their way to the top. It could be Wall Street.

It could be the local school board. It could be the homeowner’s association.

It could be government. It could be their relationship with you. It could be any role. Which top depends on the sociopath’s particular ambition, desire, talent and smarts. And one of the most difficult things about dealing with a sociopath is when you see it…. Many sociopaths live their lives relatively undetected – except, perhaps, by those closest to them… and only then, sometimes, to those who have learned to identify a sociopath. Sociopaths use many tools.

They are described as charming, with an almost animal- like charisma. They have magnetism, an affinity for danger, spontaneity. They inspire a feeling of familiarity: “I just felt like I’d known her forever!” They establish intimacy quickly.

They use “we” statements. They use seduction. They create distractions with social/professional roles: animal lover, humanitarian, benefactor. They engage in gaslighting – making you doubt your perceptions of reality. Sociopaths are expert in identifying an easy mark – they can pick out the most trusting, decent person in the room.

They use their victim’s goodness and capacity to trust against them. Crocodile tears are a favorite method. They are masterful at evoking pity and have incredible acting skills.

In fact, sociopaths have an especially strong fondness for evoking pity. Pity is carte blanche. Good people will let pathetic individuals get away with, sometimes literally, murder. And when we pity, we are emotionally defenseless, emotionally vulnerable. All sociopaths are violent – some emotionally, and some physically as well.

For help in protecting yourself from violence in general – including sociopathic violence, I strongly recommend Gavin de Becker’s book, The Gift of Fear. This book discusses the predictability of violence – great for avoiding sociopaths. In particular, I like his Pre- Incident Indicators (PINs), which reads like a menu of sociopathic characteristics: Forced teaming. This is when a person implies he has something in common with you, claiming you have a shared predicament when that’s not really true. Speaking in “we” terms, i.

We don’t need to talk outside…Let’s go in.”Charm and Niceness. This is being polite and friendly to a chosen victim in order to manipulate him or her, or to  disarm their mistrust. Too many details.

If a person is lying they will add excessive details to make themselves sound more credible to their chosen victim. Watch I Am Virgin Putlocker# on this page. Typecasting. An insult is used to get a chosen victim who would otherwise ignore one to engage in conversation to counteract the insult. For example: “Oh, I bet you’re too stuck up to talk to a guy like me.” The tendency is for the chosen victim to want to prove the insult untrue. Loan. Sharking. Giving unsolicited help to the chosen victim and anticipating they’ll feel obliged to extend some reciprocal openness in return. The Unsolicited Promise. A promise to do (or not do) something when no such promise is asked for; this usually means that such a promise will be broken.

For example: an unsolicited, “I promise I’ll leave you alone after this,” usually means the chosen victim will not be left alone. Similarly, an unsolicited “I promise I won’t hurt you” usually means the person intends to hurt their chosen victim. Discounting the Word “No”. Refusing to accept rejection. No thanks, I don’t need help,” the victim says. Nonsense—it’s no trouble, we’re almost here!” says the sociopath.

So now you have a lead on how to recognize a sociopath, and hopefully red flags will rise when you encounter one. But what if you’ve now realized you have a sociopath in your life – right now – and want to know how to handle them?

Stout lists “Thirteen Rules For Dealing With Sociopaths In Everyday Life.” I love this list and found it enlightening. Following is a paraphrase of what is written in her book. Accept that some people have no conscience. And they don’t look like a serial killer. They look like us.